First of all, everyone has made some good points however they missed the TRUMP!
Eddie Murphy is gay! There had to be a motive for sleeping with Eddie to begin with. What rational person would take that risk? The love of money!!
Remember he was picking up ladies…ooops men of the night giving them lifts? (wink wink)I know everyone has heard about Eddie and his dealings with the gay world clubs an all. I bet his security team is gay too! Him and Jonny gill has been rumored as lovers anyway. Thats probally why Nicole got rid of him, however she knew what time it was from the jump. So the only thing that happened in my opinion…is they thought about the money first, and got caught up in the hype.
Keep it real people!

I mean, could you accept it if the person you are with has a tattoo with the name of another person on it…their ex in fact??? No…the only right thing to do is alter the tattoo or get it lasered off. Well, this is the same kind of situation. You don’t start a new marriage and say to everyone– “Yeah, we got married but I’m keeping the name of my ex.” It is not like this is a business decision as Murphy is more famous than Babyface. So if you are Murphy, you have to ask yourself, is she still in love with her ex…Babyface, I mean–and the answer would have to be yes, hence the reason this marriage to be, is over.

Murphy needs to calm down and try to get over his ex wife as it appears he is going for rebound romances right now with women who have other motives.

Yeah, the Murph needs to take some time away from the dating scene and find someone who really loves him for him, not for his name…his money, the press they can get out of it, or to make an ex jealous, ala Babyface.

Just keep in mind that people sometimes fall for a person for reasons that are not clear to others. While it seems like an “unintelligent” choice to an outsider, there often is a very real and logical reason that the person was drawn to the other. Even if it turns out to be a hideous match. No one can judge how another’s heart works.

Thank you for expressing my every thought on this matter so effectively!

By the way, Eddie sure is an ASS!

And yes- male or female everybody goes through a time- when they fall in love (for instance the big one that sticks out in my mind is falling in love for the first time), and they lose part of their intelligence (as often too many times people are blinded/ distracted by money, looks, *alcohol (its a sad excuse, that is much over- used), emotions, fill in the blank__). And as a result, end up making poor and un-intelligent decisions, such as has been the case for both Tracey and Mel B, in hooking up with and pursuing any type of relationship with Eddie Murphy WHATSOEVER. And so far, the last two relationships he has engaged in have left us baffled enough to discuss them in the first place.

And again, I’m not defending this guy. And although, Eddie Murphy IS the common denominator in each of these situations (Tracey, Mel B), I can’t help but feel frustrated at trying to understand the type of woman that looks at a man like that and says “that’s the guy”… Especially in Tracey’s case for her to be ignorant enough to not acknowledge that he denied Mel B’s kid who turned out to be HIS, and that he left his wife with five kids as well. To lack the ability to use any type of logic to access his past relationships, and not understand that there is a HUGE possibility that this guy’s a major asshole and has some “issues” that he needs to work out before he gets serious with another woman, or rather that he lacks respect for women in general shows a huge sign of ignorance on her part.

For me at least, I don’t believe people can just *change for anyone. Change starts from within. And clearly, he’s made no apologies for anything he’s said up until this point or done- he was perfectly fine with saying on numerous occasions “we don’t know who the father of that baby is until it comes out”, he was fine with putting Mel B “in her place”, and denying what would turn out to be his own kid. And EVEN AFTER the fact, made NO APOLOGIES or attempts to correct his false statements or go on record saying the kid was his, and give Mel B the credit and respect she deserved. The man has such a blatant disregard for women in general, its hard to fathom why anyone, let alone Tracey would consider engaging in a relationship with him. After- all, call me “old- fashioned”, but in calling Mel B a whore, he called his kid a bastard.

All in all, he’s a major asshole, there’s no denying it. And yes, Eddie Murphy has been around long enough- I’m sure he has grasped the concept of birth control. But then again- 5 kids with the first wife, and 1 with Mel B- maybe he hasn’t? (I know, horrible joke). But to go as far as to say that if he didn’t want a kid he should have worn a condom- we are all educated enough to know that no form of birth control is 100% effective.. except for the extremely engaging and effective method known as “abstinence”.

But we don’t know the details of their relationship, and although he was wrong for denying the kid when he KNEW himself that it WAS his, I tend to believe that ANOTHER kid was the last thing he wanted, to add to the 5 he already has with his previous wife. Another kid, to have to pay child support for. Situations arise, and particularly if that was an issue that they hadn’t discussed prior to it happening ie “If I got pregnant would you..” then that poses some problems, particularly of what to do. And for two people that were according to Mel B herself, in a “serious” relationship and that they “planned it”- seems to me, that they couldn’t have been more divided on the issue. Forget about admitting the kid was his- Eddie didn’t even want to admit he had sex with her, or that they had even dated etc. I’m not putting the blame on Mel B- it takes two to make a baby. At least that much I do recall from my highly- informative sex education back in middle school.

As for your comment regarding unintended pregnancies, they do occur, however- look at America’s youth for example- although the consequences of their actions produce a definite result- many young, un-wed teenage girls I would imagine DO get pregnant, UNINTENTIONALLY (as many of them have sex without the INTENTION of getting pregnant, they have sex for the simple and immediate gratification the action produces, much like their male counterparts).

On the other hand, is there such a thing as being an intelligent person but having a lapse in judgment? Even if that so- called “lapse in judgment” produces a child that the father has no intention of being there for? It just seems like a bit of a contradiction to me, to call a woman like Mel B or Tracey intelligent- when they are well aware of who this man is, how he acts etc., and yet they are still interested in having a relationship with him anyway. As it is no secret he’s got 5 kids, or that he fathered Mel B’s child. If Tracey is by all means as successful as you claim and as financially- independent as you claim and by no means was *distracted with Eddie’s financial situation at all, I will retract my statement about the “money- grabbing”. But calling someone intelligent after they make un-intelligent decisions seems to be a bit of a contradiction to me. Can an intelligent person make un-intelligent choices? Your choices are a reflection of yourself, and if you make stupid choices, then__. Regardless, everybody makes a few mistakes and bad choices now and then, as long as you learn from them that is the important part, but it just seems as of recently, that Eddie Murphy is a bad mistake wayyy too many women are making. And I think at the very least, that’s something we both can agree on.